My step-sister and her family are going through some really hard times right now and I just want to encourage everyone not to wait until it’s too late to make things right with the people you care about. Her father was recently involved in a serious (not yet fatal) accident when he fell into fire during a freak accident weedwacking his yard. He has burns on virtually all of his body and is probably going to lose his leg. He has been in a coma for almost all of the past 2 weeks and this has been rough on everyone in the family (obviously). The part that hits home for me is that my step-sister doesn’t have the best relationship with her father, and hasn’t for the past 10 years or so. Now she is a huge ball of chaos inside and struggling through all the emotions of needing to clear the air and make things right. Not easy to do when he’s not responding. And not a peaceful thought when she may never get the chance to say the things she needs to.

I’m not in a dis-similar situation myself with my father. We’ve had a very strange relationship - ranging from non-existent for the 24 years he was married to my mother - to oddly close when they split up - back to half-ass uncomfortableness - being nice on the outside - but not making much effort - situation that we find ourselves in now. It’s one of the things I fear the most - getting that phone call that something has happened to him. On one hand, I’m not sure I have ANY feelings towards my Dad and sometimes my anger takes over and I could care less. He was never there for me, even when it was clear I needed him. On the other hand, he’s still my father and there were odd times when he depended on me and I was everything to him. Even if it was only momentary, I still remember those times and know what his is capable of. So it’s hard to completely let go and detatch myself. So there is unfinished business for sure, and I really need to step up and start making an effort towards resolving some of my issues.

Like the unfortunate situation Carla is in, I don’t want to regret anything and with I had repaired things when I had the chance. The scars won’t heal completely, but maybe I can pull some of these clouds off my heart towards him and be a little more at peace with myself and my past.

Everyone please keep my step-sister and her father in your thoughts. She can use all the positive energy she can get.

And don’t wait until tomorrow to do something you can do today. How cliche, but true.

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June 13th, 2006 Hawk Says:

You know, it is a cliche, but it is SUCH and important one. I think that people take so many things for granted - we are all guilty of it. A few years ago I lost a really close friend and there were things that were left unsaid. As a result I live by the philosphy of no regrets, and it has made my life so much richer.

You’ve got all the answers there babe - take your own advice…

(I really hope things work out for Carla - she’s in my thoughts).

June 14th, 2006 Joy Says:

I think I’m going to send a nice letter and some pictures and stuff to my Dad for Father’s Day. No better time right? Figured it would be a start. The hardest part is finding it inside myself to let go.

Thanks for always listenin dear.

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